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Stop TOUCHING Me!

by Jen Kuhn on November 15, 2010

NOTE from The Experience Factor: If video continues to be blocked by The Tribune: video can be seen on YouTube by searching “TSA Molests 3 year old”.  We are making no accusations; that is simply how to find the video.

“Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.” Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Children bring to the world a sense of hope, innocence, wonder and often times common sense that is unparalleled by their adult counterparts.  The decline of any society begins with the intentional loss of protection of children and the elderly.  As I watched this video I was mortified.

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What is going on in our society that would allow such a travesty to occur?  This is not just the act of one incredibly insensitive, ignorant and reprehensible TSA employee.  What about the other participants.  Yes, others.  How many people were standing there while this took place and did nothing?  They are participants.  I’m a frequent air traveler.  I can say with confidence that I would have intervened.  I can also jump to the conclusion that I would have been detained.  Doing nothing is doing something.  I imagine most on-lookers were shocked.  But the experience lasted long enough for intervention of some sort.

Are we more concerned as a country with “security” than common sense?  Does this require sensitivity training, as TSA official James Marchand (TSA Regional Security Director) points out?  I scream a resounding, “NO!”  If you think the answer is to train an employee to stop touching a child that is screaming, “Stop touching me!”, then you need a solid reality check. The TSA website states: “Your safety is our priority.”  I ask, “At whose expense?”

This is an open invitation to all TSA officials: our company will educate your employees for FREE in regard to common sense behaviors and creating a safe experience for consumers. In exchange, we would ask for a public service announcement that this TSA employees’ behavior was an abuse of power.

Please, stand up, speak up, shout out your thoughts!  Do you believe TSA has gone too far?  Remember, there were many other TSA agents standing by, allowing this to happen.  Let your voice be heard.  Silence is a statement.

“It is the job of thinking people not to be on the side of the executioners.” ~Albert Camus

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Respect THIS.

by Jen Kuhn on October 25, 2010

Self-absorbed leaders of the world: You are done.  Over-cooked. Fried. Put a fork in yourself.  Or, please, seriously, please, let me. 

Just this weekend I heard a supposed “leader” DEMAND respect from his “subordinate”! *Eavesdrop moment*: “You must respect me! I am your BOSS.” The demand was based solely upon TITLE.  Seriously?  That works for you?  Excuse me while I throw up a little in my mouth.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T!  Find out what it means to me!

Let’s start with:

Behaviors: Don’t say one thing and live/do another. Your title can sit in the bottom of my toilet…with the rest of the sh-tuff.  EARN respect.

Attitude: Ummm, nursery rhymes have a “king of the castle”.  Move on, please. EARN respect.

Fear: You may be the big dog, but you ain’t the only dog.  By the way, you might want to wipe that drool, you’re starting to froth at the mouth. EARN respect.

Ultimatums: Trump! You lose! Play that big card and wait til you see what I’ve been holding.  Don’t ever mistake my compassion for weakness. EARN respect.

Duplicity: If you choose to live without integrity, don’t expect me to follow along.  You are so FLAGRANT you’re see-through.  EARN respect.

If you must demand respect, you have NOT earned respect.  Get a clue.  See a therapist.  Or, could you just this once, for old times sake, be self-reflective? Nah, see a therapist.  Who are we kidding here?  If you think your title/name/job/status/etc EARNS you respect, then you need to start over.  Way over. If you don’t know what I’m saying, then this probably applies to YOU!

Blind compliance brings abuse of power, genocide, terrorism, ignorance, enabling, fear, corruption and all sorts of nastiness.  If you CANNOT or CHOOSE NOT to lead with integrity, compassion, morality, nobility, honesty, gentleness, understanding, empathy, sincerity, transparency, insight, wisdom, peace, courage, dignity,  perception and acceptance…THEN PLEASE, step down.  Accept who you are, and move along.  We NEED more.  We do NOT judge.  We just know what we NEED.

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13 Steps

by Jen Kuhn on October 22, 2010

Sometimes, doing the right thing or making a difference requires amazing courage and presence of mind.  I think of Martin Luther King, Jr., Rosa Parks, Eleanor Roosevelt, Mahatma Gandhi.  Clearly, there are many more.  These people come to mind based upon my world view, upbringing, education and life experiences.    I’m certain these elements serve as the foundation for most people as they determine people they admire.

There are others who never make the news or a “substantial” mark in history who also do the right thing and make a difference.  Through small acts of kindness, integrity, altruistic behaviors and sacrifice they impact the world.

I was speaking with my mom about some of her high school students.  She teaches a course on Social Justice.  She mentioned to each of her classes that a local food pantry needed some evening volunteers to carry bags of food up a flight of stairs: 13 steps.  The need presented itself because most of the volunteers filling the bags are senior citizens, and though they are able to carry the bags up the steps, it would make a difference to have some assistance.

The students understood the need.  Several volunteered immediately, writing their names on the sign-up sheet.  Yet there was a pattern.  Most Friday nights remained empty on the sheet.  Ah, teenagers.  Friday night is high school football games, parties and social mayhem at it’s best!

My mom understood and was simply impressed with the students who volunteered for any night.  Their willingness to make a sacrifice during the stereotypical age of self-absorption was not lost on her.  She does not buy into the stereotype and is frequently in her students’ awe.  She was proud of them for volunteering.  By the end of the day, more students walked into her class to sign up…and the Friday night slots were filled.  13 steps.

13 steps may not seem like much, but it will make a world of difference.  Are you willing to take 13 steps?  Where will they take you?

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A Lesson for Tired Teams

by Jen Kuhn on May 4, 2010

The “team approach” to work has become a tired slogan, a managerial fad, a forced concept. Many leaders and employees forget that they are working for something bigger than their own personal needs. They lose their passion and drive; they wear blinders that prevent them from seeing the big picture. Lost is the energy that initially helped drive their productivity.  Basically, a dog after a long walk…it starts out as a great idea, but it ends up exhausting all involved.

What are the elements of productive teams?  How do you create an atmosphere that fosters a team approach?  My initial thought was to create an analogy between athletic teams and organizations.  However, being a die hard Detroit Lions fan, I think I’ll choose another approach.

I recently attended a true team event at St. Francis DeSales High School.  The school sponsored a Relay for Life event which gives communities a chance to celebrate the lives of people who have battled cancer, remember loved ones lost, and fight back against the disease. Because cancer never sleeps, Relays are overnight events up to 24 hours in length.


During this event, I witnessed the elements of a team that every organization should strive to implement.  These DeSales high school students (and some awesome adult volunteers and cancer survivors) lived and breathed the ideal of a high functioning team.  With the additional presence of representatives (Sheizka Komala and Ann Dee Hamilton) from Aflac, from students, parents and grandparents from Whetstone High School, plus additional vendors, the St. Francis DeSales community modeled an effective team.

The elements of an effective team that I witnessed:

1. Common Purpose: The students were educated and aware of the purpose of their participation.  They either had a personal experience with cancer, or wanted to support others.  The purpose was effectively communicated by the event coordinator, Kellie O’Riordan who lost her mother (Barbara) to cancer.  Kellie ensured that the students understood the solemnity and hope the relay represented.  Every student I spoke with was able to verbalize the purpose of the event.  If I visited your organization, would every employee be able to verbalize your purpose?

2. Motivation: What an amazing sight to witness: teenagers motivated to create a better future for others!  And to take this a step further, they did not confuse motivation with results.  They already had their sponsors and raised their money…yet they were highly motivated to follow through on their personal commitment in order to achieve results.  That’s true motivation.  You can tell me how enthusiastic you are about something, but are you doing the behaviors that demonstrate your enthusiasm?

3. Individual Responsibility in a Group Setting: Every student stepped up to the plate. Prior to the event, individuals of each team raised money, designed t-shirts and coordinated group efforts. During the event, they made sure they had someone representing their team (walking/jogging) for 24 hours.  After the event, individuals helped with post event details that required a great deal of attention.  How well do the individuals on your team contribute to the success of the group?

4. Flexibility: Due to weather, the relay was held indoors (demonstration that a team needs leadership to support decisions that will help them be most effective).  This required students to walk the halls of the school rather than the track they had prepared for; they had to set up their “tents” in the gym rather than the outdoor field. I didn’t hear a single complaint.  What I did hear were students asking about how to get water to others, whether or not there were fans available and how to use cross-ventilation effectively!  What would happen to your teams’ effectiveness if they encountered an obstacle that changed all of their initial expectations?

5. Identity: Each team developed a name and created a t-shirt. It was easy to spot members of individual teams.  They also had a greater identity: their common purpose noted in the first point.  This created camaraderie at two levels: the smaller team composed of individuals who had bonded together while preparing for the event; and the larger team: all the participants, whether they be a team, volunteer or survivor.  What is your organization doing to create identity?

Teams are important to any organizations’ overall success.  Please let us know what you think makes an effective team!

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Effective Coaching Starts with YOU

by Jen Kuhn on February 22, 2010

Coaching to Create a Culture

Recently I was asked by a supervisor why coaching plays such a crucial role in the development of their service culture.  The supervisor wanted to understand what particular coaching behaviors are the most effective in enhancing this culture.  Although there are many coaching behaviors that will influence your cultural development, I am going to address two of them in this blog: upholding standards and positive reinforcement.

Several years ago I was facilitating a motivational and teambuilding seminar for employees of a juvenile court detention center.  This particular team had a great deal of internal conflict and resistance.  The primary reason for the seminar was to get them motivated and working together in a more productive manner.

During one of the activities, I asked the participants why they chose to work at the detention center.  (I was hoping that we would find some common ground as a foundation for building a more cohesive team).  One participant responded by saying, “If I can make a difference in just one child’s life, I will have done my job.  I work at the detention center in the hopes of helping one child.”  I asked if they all felt the same way since they were all nodding their heads.  Everyone vigorously nodded in agreement.  My response was from the heart: “You see hundreds of kids a year, and you’ve done your job if you’ve helped just one?”  Their new common ground: hating me.  Hey, we had to start somewhere.

If people are paid and trained and coached to do a job, we should expect that they will do it well.  I highly doubt that the supervisors at the detention center were hiring people and saying to them, “During your tenure here, it is our hope that you can help one child.  Welcome to the team.”  That sounds ridiculous, right?  But isn’t that what we sometimes communicate to employees?  We set our standards low and become accustomed to underperformance in certain areas.  What coach hasn’t had the thought, “Well, as long as they’re not making any big mistakes, or causing too much conflict, I’ll be happy with my team”?  (But remember, what you are willing to accept becomes your standard).  Or, the ever popular, “I really don’t have time to meet with my employees or catch them doing something right…I’m just relieved they showed up for work today”.  These thoughts lead to coaching behaviors that serve to de-motivate employees and ensure underperformance!  They are destructive to the development of your culture.  Negative and neutral reinforcement guarantee underperformance, as does setting the standard, then not holding employees accountable if they are unwilling to meet that standard.  When we finally confront underperformance, it’s met with shock, defensiveness and resistance.   The employee learns to respond by saying things like, “At least I’m not as bad as her”, or “Remember, back in 1989 when I helped that one guy?  I can’t believe you think I don’t help enough people”!

As coaches, we need to have high standards and expectations.  The person we should expect the most from is ourselves.  If you are given the honor and task of supervising employees, have standards and expectations of yourself.  Do not fall into the trap of thinking that you do not have time to coach employees.  We are all given 24 hours in a day.  No matter how many employees you supervise, projects you are working on, emails you have to answer, you get 24 hours.  What you do with those hours makes all the difference.  “Time management” is just a phrase.  In the book, 100 Ways to Motivate Others,(100 Ways to Motivate Others: H…) the authors state that “…you can’t really manage time.  You can’t add any more time to your day.  But you can manage the priorities and the things you choose to do.”  Wow.  How about that for a reality check?

You may wonder where to start coaching your employees, and how to fit that into your day.  (And remember, you can’t manage people, but you can coach them)!  You must start with something simple.  Make it a priority to catch your employees doing something right everyday.  Give them immediate, positive feedback.  Be specific about what they did well.  Pay more attention to the behaviors that you want to see and you will see more of those behaviors.  Have you ever noticed that when you buy a new car, you start seeing “your car” all over the place?  Funny, suddenly everyone has a car like yours.  Do you really believe that the car you bought gained in popularity overnight?  Or is it more realistic that you started noticing the car once it became important to you?  Once you decide that it is important to catch your employees doing “it” right, you will see them doing things right with more frequency.  Remember, coaching is a way of thinking and behaving, not an event.

Giving consistent positive reinforcement to your employees will help lay the foundation for all other coaching thoughts and behaviors.  Additionally, holding employees accountable for meeting standards is an effective coaching practice that treats people as capable adults.  I’ll say it again: what you are willing to accept becomes your standard!

Coaching plays a vital role in developing and enhancing your company culture. You have been given an opportunity as a coach to influence and ensure this development at your company, school, hospital, court system, restaurant, not for profit, government agency or where ever you work.  You can do it!  Changing your coaching style may be difficult at first, but eventually effective coaching will simply become what you do.  Now go out there and catch the next employee you see doing something right!  Seriously, get out of your chair, walk away from your computer…Are you still there?  It’s over, move along, there’s nothing to see here…

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