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Respect THIS.

by Jen Kuhn on October 25, 2010

Self-absorbed leaders of the world: You are done.  Over-cooked. Fried. Put a fork in yourself.  Or, please, seriously, please, let me. 

Just this weekend I heard a supposed “leader” DEMAND respect from his “subordinate”! *Eavesdrop moment*: “You must respect me! I am your BOSS.” The demand was based solely upon TITLE.  Seriously?  That works for you?  Excuse me while I throw up a little in my mouth.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T!  Find out what it means to me!

Let’s start with:

Behaviors: Don’t say one thing and live/do another. Your title can sit in the bottom of my toilet…with the rest of the sh-tuff.  EARN respect.

Attitude: Ummm, nursery rhymes have a “king of the castle”.  Move on, please. EARN respect.

Fear: You may be the big dog, but you ain’t the only dog.  By the way, you might want to wipe that drool, you’re starting to froth at the mouth. EARN respect.

Ultimatums: Trump! You lose! Play that big card and wait til you see what I’ve been holding.  Don’t ever mistake my compassion for weakness. EARN respect.

Duplicity: If you choose to live without integrity, don’t expect me to follow along.  You are so FLAGRANT you’re see-through.  EARN respect.

If you must demand respect, you have NOT earned respect.  Get a clue.  See a therapist.  Or, could you just this once, for old times sake, be self-reflective? Nah, see a therapist.  Who are we kidding here?  If you think your title/name/job/status/etc EARNS you respect, then you need to start over.  Way over. If you don’t know what I’m saying, then this probably applies to YOU!

Blind compliance brings abuse of power, genocide, terrorism, ignorance, enabling, fear, corruption and all sorts of nastiness.  If you CANNOT or CHOOSE NOT to lead with integrity, compassion, morality, nobility, honesty, gentleness, understanding, empathy, sincerity, transparency, insight, wisdom, peace, courage, dignity,  perception and acceptance…THEN PLEASE, step down.  Accept who you are, and move along.  We NEED more.  We do NOT judge.  We just know what we NEED.

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13 Steps

by Jen Kuhn on October 22, 2010

Sometimes, doing the right thing or making a difference requires amazing courage and presence of mind.  I think of Martin Luther King, Jr., Rosa Parks, Eleanor Roosevelt, Mahatma Gandhi.  Clearly, there are many more.  These people come to mind based upon my world view, upbringing, education and life experiences.    I’m certain these elements serve as the foundation for most people as they determine people they admire.

There are others who never make the news or a “substantial” mark in history who also do the right thing and make a difference.  Through small acts of kindness, integrity, altruistic behaviors and sacrifice they impact the world.

I was speaking with my mom about some of her high school students.  She teaches a course on Social Justice.  She mentioned to each of her classes that a local food pantry needed some evening volunteers to carry bags of food up a flight of stairs: 13 steps.  The need presented itself because most of the volunteers filling the bags are senior citizens, and though they are able to carry the bags up the steps, it would make a difference to have some assistance.

The students understood the need.  Several volunteered immediately, writing their names on the sign-up sheet.  Yet there was a pattern.  Most Friday nights remained empty on the sheet.  Ah, teenagers.  Friday night is high school football games, parties and social mayhem at it’s best!

My mom understood and was simply impressed with the students who volunteered for any night.  Their willingness to make a sacrifice during the stereotypical age of self-absorption was not lost on her.  She does not buy into the stereotype and is frequently in her students’ awe.  She was proud of them for volunteering.  By the end of the day, more students walked into her class to sign up…and the Friday night slots were filled.  13 steps.

13 steps may not seem like much, but it will make a world of difference.  Are you willing to take 13 steps?  Where will they take you?

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Your Leadership Legacy

by Jen Kuhn on October 4, 2010

If you are in a position of leadership, formal or informal, you have a tremendous responsibility.   This is not a burden, it’s an honor; one to be taken seriously.

At the end of this day, everyday, what type of legacy will you leave?  I was inspired by the blog of Tim Sanchez (aka @DeliverBliss) to compile some leadership quotes to inspire you to embrace your role as a leader.  Please take a moment to reflect upon the impact you are having on those around you.  Leave a legacy worthy of emulation.

  • Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right thing. ~P. Drucker
  • Leadership is action, not position. ~D. McGannon
  • You must do the thing you think you cannot do. ~E. Roosevelt
  • The main ingredient of stardom is the rest of the team. ~J. Wooden
  • Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. ~MLK, Jr.
  • Nothing is more despicable than respect based on fear. ~A. Camus
  • The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands in times of challenge and controversy. ~MLK, Jr.
  • You don’t get paid for the hour.  You get paid for the value you bring to the hour. ~J. Rohn
  • How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and strong.  Because some day in life you will have been all of these. ~G.W. Carver
  • You will face many defeats in life but never let yourself be defeated. ~M. Angelou
  • If you want to build a ship, don’t herd people together to collect wood and don’t assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea. ~A. de Sainte Exupery
  • Standing for right when it is unpopular is a true test of moral character. ~M. Smith
  • “Do-so” is more important than “say-so”. ~P. Seeger
  • Humans are ambitious and rational and proud.  And we don’t fall in line with people who don’t respect us and who we don’t feel have our best interests at heart.  We are willing to follow leaders, but only to the extent that we believe they call on our best, not our worst. ~R. Maddow
  • You are responsible for the talent that has been entrusted to you. ~H-F. Amiel

These are just a small sampling of quotes.  What quotes inspire you?  We’d love for you to add to the list…


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Snapshots of Inspiration

by Jen Kuhn on June 3, 2010

I believe that in order to lead, you must also be able to inspire.  Inspiration. When was the last time you were truly inspired?  When was the last time you were the source of someones’ inspiration?  I don’t believe (completely) in the idea of fate, or the common saying, “it was meant to be”.  However, over the past 3 days I’ve received gifts of inspiration when I didn’t expect them. Maybe I received them because I was open to them, or maybe it was just, dare I say it…fate.

Here are 3 examples of inspiration that I’ve encountered in 3 days:

  • My friends’ son, Jake Berman, is a young man who has completed his first year in college. While visiting their home, he shared his portfolio from a photography class. Whoa. Not only were the pictures breathtaking; his explanation of each shot was profound and poignant. I’ve known Jake since he was a toddler. His insight, compassion and talent have always inspired me (whether it was on the football field, helping a friend, wrestling in a district tournament or having a conversation). I’m confidant that no matter the path he chooses he will one day be a quiet leader, standing up for what’s right and making a difference.

  • On Twitter I saw a quote posted initially by @LeadToday (aka Steve Keating) that was retweeted by @ndefalco (aka Nicole DeFalco). The quote: “Talk is cheap. Action is priceless.”  Simple.  It spurred me into action.  I had grand plans all day. This simple quote helped me put those plans into action.  Then a few hours later, @MarkOOates (aka Mark Oakes) tweeted that he had a peak training session to prepare for a “half Ironman” which included a 1.5 mile swim, 60 mile bike ride and 7 mile run.  Someone buy this man a CAR! Who does all that in one day? Again, I was inspired.  I laced up my jogging shoes and went for a run. For the record, I jogged just a bit more than he swam.  I didn’t want to show him up. I’m cool like that. These people lead by wisdom and example.
  • On Facebook, a friend posted this video. If you do not give this video 4 minutes of your attention it will be your complete loss. I will let it speak for itself.
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What are you doing to inspire others?  Where have you found inspiration in unlikely places?  How do you incorporate inspiration into your leadership behaviors?  We would love to hear your thoughts on inspiration as an element of leadership and as one of the gifts of life.

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Take Me to Your Leader

by Jen Kuhn on May 11, 2010

Leadership is (fill in the blank).  You can’t.  Neither can I. 

Despite articles, books, blogs and opinions written about leadership, what is often left unsaid is that leadership is over-defined.  Yes, there are characteristics that one might apply to a strong (or weak) leader.  There are behaviors one can observe, mentors one can model, quotes one can use and examples one can site.  I tend to agree with most of what I read about quality leadership and what that embodies.

Therefore, I would like to add a perspective on leadership by simplifying the definition to four dominant traits/characteristics/behaviors (fill in the blank!).  Consider a compass.  There are four primary directions: North, South, East and West.  And just like leadership, even something as precise as a compass has varying ways of defining and discovering North: there is True North, magnetic North and grid North.  No wonder I need GPS AND Mapquest to get me where I’m going!

So imagine that there are four primary elements of leadership, with varying degrees of direction.  Just like I might be traveling North-East to get to my destination, one can also move their leadership needle along the compass.

The Leadership Compass:

Moral Direction

In order to be an effective leader, one must have a moral compass.  Do the right thing because it’s the right thing to do.  Ah, the challenge.  Sometimes the right thing to do may have a negative impact on the bottom line.  The right thing may involve confronting an employee who is not meeting the standards and expectations of your organization.  The right thing may be to change a policy so it benefits both the consumer and the company.  The right thing may be the difficult thing to do.  Varying degrees of this compass point include: honesty, integrity, ethics, conscientiousness, virtuous, honorable, humane, compassionate and noble, to name a few.  How does your moral compass impact your leadership decisions?

Inspirational Direction

Another trait I would place on my leadership compass is the ability to inspire others.  Quality leaders, no matter their position within an organization typically make others want to do and be more.  They serve as an example of possibilities and dreams and courage.  Inspiring others at this level is a gift and a challenge.  Varying degrees of this compass point include: leading by example, encouraging, intriguing, motivating, refreshing, dynamic, persuasive and uplifting, to name a few.  What leader has made an inspirational impression on you?

Emotional Intelligence Direction

In Daniel Goleman’s article he discusses emotional intelligence as a quality of an effective leader.  This is often ignored when it comes to the promotional processes of many organizations.  Typically, one gets promoted into a leadership position because they are either highly effective at their current position, or they’ve been with the company for 78 years.  Neither of these reasons have to do with leadership; rather, they apply to job knowledge and longevity.  As Mr. Goleman points out, some varying degrees of emotional intelligence include: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy and social skills.  What are your guiding principles when choosing a leader within your organization?

Effective Communication Direction

There are multiple ideas, visions and expectations that a leader must communicate within their organization.  The ability to do so effectively can mean the difference between: success or failure, motivation or discouragement, buy-in or complaints, collaboration or sabotage, understanding or confusion. In order to effectively communicate, a leader must have a handle on all other elements of their leadership compass.  Some additional degrees one would find: open body language, approachability, willingness to accept and receive feedback, ability to see and verbalize the “big picture”, positive recognition, holding people accountable, recognizing effort, keeping people in the loop, authenticity and many more.  What opportunities do you have to communicate more effectively?

So there you have it…my leadership compass.  Each direction allows for further definition and corresponding behaviors.  What would you add to this compass?  What direction are you taking your organization????


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Wanted: Inspiration

by Jen Kuhn on March 28, 2010

“I’ll be more enthusiastic about encouraging thinking outside the box when there’s evidence of any thinking going on inside it.” ~Terry Pratchett

I’m sitting in a hotel room.  It looks exactly like the one I was in last week. That idea comforts and disturbs me.  I could be anywhere.  Yet according to this ad, this is what business travel looks like: YouTube Preview Image

Yep, that’s me, prancing across the lobby. If that’s supposed to be my check-in experience, I’m doing something wrong.  Yet when I checked-in this morning, there was a difference: the person working at the front desk (Jimmy).  His attitude pulled me out of what I call my “travel apathy” (if you say it really fast, it’s one word).  You just said it 3 times, didn’t you?

He noted I’d been a guest here before and welcomed me back.  I responded politely (that’s travel apathy). He asks, “What do you do that allows you to travel so much?”  I gave him the 30 second, canned version (what’s it called? Yep…travel apathy).  He gave me a great big smile, “That must be so much fun! AND you get to travel.” Someone drank the kool-aid.

Suddenly I felt like I owed him more than polite responses, because he was connecting, being real, being human.  And…he knocked the travel apathy right outta me!  I was actually reminded that I love what I do, and that’s why I do it.  I expanded on my response and allowed myself to connect.  May not seem like much to you, but I’d left for the airport at 5 AM, and I prefer to only see 5 in the PM.

Jimmy reminded me that I’m here for a reason. He reminded me. And I guess Mr. Marriott is not just blogging (Home), he’s inspiring.  One of his employees is making a difference.

So who will you inspire?  One person can make a difference.  You won’t always know the who, what, when, where, how and why…but you will inspire.  Go for it.

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